@this-good-good-d drilling my married fucking cunt.
“At one time, a mistress meant a female master, a woman who had command of something – a household, a farm, a shop, a craft. A woman who lives outside the law cannot survive as an amateur. She must acquire mastery over many arts, and she yields only when and to whom she will. When she surrenders, it is an act of will, not a ritual. No living person has ever attained complete mastery over the self, but a mistress is bound to try and given scope to do it in. “She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands; She considereth a field, and buyeth it; She planteth a vineyard; She perceiveth that her merchandise is good; Her candle goeth not out by night; She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; She is not afraid of the snow, for all her household are clothed with scarlet; She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” This is her goal and criterion.”
— taken from ‘Advice to a Young Wife from an Old Mistress’
“I want to be the architect of my story but at present I lack the ability to grasp the pen I am too defeated to believe I am not caged and that I can, and that I could exercise my own will to mould my only fate and so, to external forces I yield to other players I surrender cemented in my role as a passive passenger on a speeding freight train.”
— Blinded By Self
When you truly care for someone, their mistakes never change your feelings.
one of the most amazing things that has been said to me in therapy is that self esteem doesn’t exist.
and that floored people and the psych went onto say that what she meant was that self esteem is a concept that actually includes a vast array of things and labelling them all as one thing is really limiting and prevents actual improvement
you could have real strong pride in the things you create and hate your body
you could hate your creations but also want to share them with people
you could not hate yourself at all but not take care of yourself, engage in reckless self endangerment
thats all bundled under ‘self esteem’ but saying ‘i need better self esteem’ doesn’t mean anything
whereas if you say ‘i need to work on ways to keeping myself safe, refusing to act on destructive urges’ or ‘i want to be in a place where i believe compliments trusted people give me’
thats concrete, thats a goal.
having it said in therapy helped a lot of people in my group stop saying ‘i have low self esteem’ and start specifying about the actual issue they have